Security is something required in any relationship. When you buy a car, rent an apartment, or invest they want a down payment, deposit, or high credit score. Whether business or personal some kind of assurance is expected. But when it’s personal how do you know if you’re expectations are reasonable?
I had a good conversation with a young lady about what women should wear when working out at the gym. We both frequent different gyms and I noticed most of the women wear tight spandex outfits. But one day I saw a lady in baggy sweatpants and a loose fitting t-shirt. I told her I automatically had more respect and appreciation for this lady in the sweats because she wasn’t exposing herself. Her rebutal was: “She probably has low self-esteem.” My response was no I don’t think so, but what if her man was like: “Babe, could you not wear the spandex tight leggings for me when you go to workout?” Her reply was: “No, then she’ll always be changing for him and when will it end? Her man is just insecure.”
When we speak about security whithin heterosexual relationships we must look to the best definition of what a virtuous woman is in the Book of Proverbs Chapter 31 from the Holy Bible.
“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.” Proverbs 31:10-11 K.J.V. Amen.
Virtuous means nobel character; to the point that her husband has full confidence in her and he does not lack anything good from her. She will never let him down and will greatly enrich his life. If she is doing something that causes her man to doubt her or question her intentions, behavior, ect., then he is not insecure he is only a reflection of her in that situation. This brings me to another related point.
It’s all about chemistry between a man and a woman. How well do y’all gel? Do y’all really vibe? Is communication easy and enjoyable? You can’t fake true chemistry. It’s always real. And real recognize real.
The origin of chemistry between man and woman is in the Book of Genesis in the Holy Bible. God brought Eve to Adam. Adam called her Woman, she became his wife, no marriage ceremony is mentioned, and he later called her Eve. It says it here:
“And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. And Adam called his wife’s name Eve; because she was the mother of all living.” Genesis 2:22-25, 3:20 K.J.V. Amen.
So, it’s totally reasonable to expect things from your lady or your man that go against the trends of the times. Because a virtuous woman is not trendy.
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